UPDATE: A new etiquette dilemma is making waves in social circles as concerns grow over the implications of sharing cellphones during gatherings. A reader recently expressed discomfort with a friend who frequently passes his phone around the dinner table, particularly due to her husband’s immunocompromised condition.
In a world increasingly aware of hygiene, Miss Manners has provided critical advice on handling this situation without causing embarrassment. The scenario underscores a growing trend: the need for clear communication in social settings, especially when health is at stake.
The reader is torn between politeness and her family’s health. She suggests simply saying, “No, thanks,” but Miss Manners recommends a more tactful approach. Speaking privately to the friend or announcing a “device-free zone” at the table could lead to a long-term solution, addressing both her discomfort and the health concerns.
However, in the heat of the moment, if a phone is being passed around, Miss Manners advises a clever strategy: stand up, move to your husband, and intercept the phone before he is put in a position to touch it. This can be done while expressing delight at the photo, making the action appear natural and unobtrusive. Afterward, one can excuse themselves for a trip to the kitchen or bathroom, effectively avoiding any awkwardness.
As gatherings increase this holiday season, Miss Manners’ insights are particularly timely. The etiquette expert also tackled another pressing issue regarding invitations. A reader expressed reluctance to attend a neighbor’s post-Christmas open house where guests are expected to bring food, yet no RSVP was requested. Miss Manners emphasized the importance of responding to invitations, regardless of the format.
“You must respond — but a response declining the invitation is just as polite as an acceptance,” she stated, reinforcing the necessity of respect in social interactions.
Additionally, Miss Manners addressed another common dilemma: the obligation to travel with friends who may not share the same interests. She reassured readers that they are not required to travel with anyone, even friends, whom they do not align with in passions or routines. Instead, she suggested avoiding detailed discussions about future trips to maintain personal travel preferences.
Miss Manners’ responses resonate with many as social dynamics continue to evolve. With gatherings on the rise and health considerations at the forefront, her advice serves as a vital resource for navigating these complex interactions.
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As the holiday season approaches, these insights could prove invaluable for maintaining harmony and respect in social settings. Share this article to help others navigate these etiquette challenges!
